Female Sexuality

The longer I live, the less I know about it, and the more disinclined I am to judge. I still do judge people who sleep with too many people, and people who have, or make, let me put it that way, more than two children, but I have nothing but empathy and fear even for them. (Hmmm, those Duggar people make me sick, actually.)

Which brings us first to Nadya Suleman, octomom; second, the most amazing sex dream I ever had, which was last Wednesday night; and third, the two 60s groupies bios I'm just finishing up.

I'm not sure I'll be able to get out everything I think about all these things at one sitdown, so I'll probably be editing this post all day. I just wanted to get the forest down. I can fill the trees in later.

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Nadya Suleman, octomom.

In a locked entry niyabinghi picks up on what's missing from the Suleman discussion. Apparently she's huge with all the right-wing pundits, who are slashing her. This is the sign of something big and bad.

Binghi wishes there were such a thing as a mandatory high school course in something like "Biological Counselling" -- just the facts on how powerfully girls' hormones want to make babies, what the hormones of pregnancy and post-partum and sex make you think, and do. And how there is a possibility that compulsions, obsessions, addictions can result from what you think are "God-given" ideas -- they could even throw something in there about the hormone which makes you think God is present.

Over at Jezebel, they're feeling very bad for Suleman, going through the stages of grief, even as they document apparent scamming on her part, and the possibly racist backlash. Best coverage of all the issues on the net -- the Suleman intvu on Dateline secured its highest ratings -- 11 mill -- since Lauer intvued Prince William and Prince Harry -- so our obsession with her is a genuine fad.

I think the Suleman story is a story about female sexuality and the fear and anger unleashed when it is untrammelled, when a woman alone makes decisions about her sexuality, when there is no man making these decisions with her and she is independent of men. The anti-abortion bloviators are the same ones excoriating Suleman.

Suleman could be the wacked out saint of femme secession, and the rage over her being a welfare queen -- seven in vitro pregnancies and 14 children is the 21st century version of Reagan's bogey, a big black woman picking up her welfare checks in a Rolls Royce -- is, for the wangnuts, disapproval of her independence of men. This is what bitches be like with no man to punch them upside the head.

Well, yes.

I think there's also a racist -- in addition to the sexist -- thing happening. Her married name was apparently Gutierrrez (I think she's delusional, so all this info I think I have to take with a grain of progesterone) and so a number of California commenters on the octomom intarnet discussions have fastened on the falsehood that she's an Hispanic illegal. Once they get over that, they're going to start with the Iraqi stuff (her father is reportedly Iraqi, and she was reportedly born here). They're already theorizing that her father is the sperm donor, based on runic readings of some Hebrew translations of ....who knows.

Unleashed female sexuality. Frankensteinian tots, cerebral palsy the mark of Cain. Scamming plastic surgery, $100,000 worth of in vitro treatments, a house and all the bills her mother is paying. Recession. Global warming through overpopulation. Iraqi terrorists. That whole Israeli eugenic bullshit about how one Palestine would be overrun by a huge Islamic baby boom. Suleman is the poster girl for all of this. The rage, I would wager, is based on the female sexuality aspect.